the most miserable people in the world

We live in a world where everyone, including their grandmothers, cares more about how they are perceived by others than how they feel about themselves. 

Demographics over ideas.

But how can anyone achieve true freedom if they constantly judge themselves based on the number of likes, comments, and shares they receive? 

See, to me, real freedom means being free from other people's expectations of who you should be. And yes, I sometimes find myself seeking status, but I don’t dwell on it too much because at least I’m aware of my tendencies. 

I’m not a monk or a Buddha, after all. 

Unfortunately, many people aren’t even aware of their habit of people-pleasing; it’s just their default behaviour.

We see this play out every day. 

"Swimming? Takes pictures pretending to be happy."

“Oh, look at my cool meal—smile! snaps a photo” 

Capturing memories isn’t inherently wrong, but sharing them online for approval from others—where’s the freedom in that?

That’s why I believe celebrities are among the most miserable people in the world. 

Who really wants to choose their clothes so others will like them more? 

Why care about being liked by millions while every action is an act to please a specific audience? 

Seriously, where is the fun in that?

Look, when you optimize for others, you lose sight of yourself.

I prefer to flip that script. 

I want to optimize for ME, and when a few people genuinely appreciate me for who I am, rather than who I’m pretending to be, then I'm ready for adventure. It’s also a bonus because you don’t have to change to meet their tastes and preferences.

And that's why, personally, I want to be known for my ideas, not looks. 

I admire people like Naval Ravikant, Timothy Ferriss, and Dan Koe for a reason. I know nothing about their lifestyles, but I appreciate them for who they are and what they bring into the world -- good ideas.

Fame has a price tag on it.

So if you intend to do something for social approval, think twice!

Don’t act to be loved; do what you genuinely love and create value in the process. People are drawn to those who provide value based on their true selves, not those who are merely pretending.

Inauthentic individuals are a turn-off. 

And you know what’s the best part? It doesn’t take long to recognise these phonies. 

You’ll know an honest person when you meet one. 

A pretender? 

You’ll recognize them too, trust me.

To quote Naval, “Karma is just you repeating one thing consistently until it catches up with you.”

Be wary of what you pretend to be!